Unleash Your Potential by Overcoming the Fear of Imperfection
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Explore how letting go of perfection boost your capacity to flow and create in relaxed ways. Learn how fear drives the pursuit of perfect decisions and how awareness can help you break free of this trap to make wiser choices.
The Trap of Perfectionism
One of the questions I encounter regularly is, "Why do I spend so much time trying to do things perfectly or even be perfect?"
The idea of perfectionism is widespread and can really interfere with creating, with relationships, with…everything.
The Fear Driving the Pursuit of Perfection
It's understandable that we’d want to reach perfection the way today’s world is set up — our every move can be closely observed on social media. Of course, we contribute to the setup, right?
We’re constantly judged by friends, family, co-workers, social media followers. And we’re usually our harshest critics. But none of this is because we’re bad people. Most of us are addicted to comparing ourselves to others. It’s deep-rooted and ties into childhood wounding that we came to believe in.
Understanding the Impact of Fear on Decision-Making
We experience so much internal pressure that we’re driven to seek "perfect" decisions, usually a sign that fear has taken control.
Fears such as "I might fail," "People will judge me," "I will disappoint myself or others," or "I will look bad," can often push us towards an unrealistic need for safety which fuels the belief that only a perfect decision can safeguard us from potential harm.
This fear is a mental construct, but it can cloud and distort our judgement and drive us towards the impossible task of perfect decision-making.
Seeing the Self-Generated Pressure
But does this relentless pursuit of perfection truly meet our needs? More often than not, it just adds more pressure to our lives. It becomes a drain on our energy and resources, and a blockade for opportunities. It makes us feel like we're constantly on a hamster wheel, while the pressure of time only keeps growing.
The Power of Awareness in Breaking Free from Perfection
Becoming aware of our perfectionism is the first step towards living a more whole, sane life. Awareness allows us to see more clearly what’s going on within us. It highlights the need to stop this energy-draining pursuit of perfection and shows the link between our need for perfection and the underlying fear driving it.
In conscious self-improvement, when we realize that fear is driving us, we can face it head-on, preventing it from puppeteering us. This is extremely important, as operating from a place of fear often leads us to make critical errors in judgement in our lives. It’s happened to the best of us.
But by actively addressing and dealing with our fears, we empower ourselves to be more able to see clearly, and more apt to make wise choices in our lives.
Embracing Wise Decisions Over Perfect Ones
We all have a unique path before us. It’s not cut in stone. We’re co-creators. We can channel our unique nature and abilities to flow, utilizing sound judgement that is free of fear’s wrong turns.
While we may not always get it right, we don't need to be perfect — and in fact, no one is. Embracing our mistakes is a key part of learning and growth. And when we free ourselves of "perfection paralysis," we flow better, adapt to changes more easily, and bring more light to our lives and the world around us.
So let’s get started by letting go of any belief we hold that we need to be perfect or to make perfect decisions. Doing so opens up spaciousness within us, and from that openness, we can invest our time and energy towards creating something beautiful in our lives, our relationships, our work.
Would you like to be more present, feel more alive and connected, with a greater sense of inner peace?
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